Recently, I went to a very uplifting meeting with a group of women- most of them in the business of helping people heal. During our discussion regarding making Intentions for our life, something was said (which I had heard before but forgot about) that struck me as comical. It was something to the effect of, “shoulding all over ourself.”
Do you “should all over yourself?” I guess I should explain what that means. 😉
How many times a day do you use the word SHOULD? I dare you to pay attention today!
I SHOULD think positive.
I SHOULD talk to this lady.
I SHOULD drag myself to the gym.
I SHOULD avoid this candy like the plaque.
I SHOULD weigh myself.
I SHOULD do the dishes.
I SHOULD make love with my husband.
I SHOULD eat a salad for dinner.
Using my best Dr. Phil voice, I would ask you, “So how does it make you FEEL to talk/think like that?”
Do you feel OBLIGATED? Like it is some kind of DUTY? How easy is it to feel present and in the moment when you talk like that? How easy it to find JOY and PEACE when you are “shoulding all over yourself?” (sorry, can’t resist using that phrase again- lol)
This is the time of year where we probably hear more SHOULDS in our mind compared to other seasons. I SHOULD attend that Christmas party. I SHOULD make brownies for my family, to show them love. I SHOULD finish my plate at my friend’s house, even if I feel full. But what happens? We end up over stressed, over obligated, and overweight! We over book our schedules, and since we equate food with love, we end up over eating on foods — some foods that may not even be our favorite foods to begin with. Nobody is beating you down. Nobody is giving you a list of do’s and don’ts. We are not puppets.
Today, make a conscious effort to throw out the mindset that you SHOULD do something and instead, focus on your WHY. Focus on WHO you are, instead of WHAT you should be doing. If you are love, you will automatically do things out of love. If you respect you body enough to take care of it, you will desire to take those actions toward feeling your best.
Take a deep breath and focus on the present moment. If we live this way, all of a sudden we will find that everything we do is aligned with who we are and what we want to accomplish— without feeling like we SHOULD be doing it.
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