created by Kellie McGarry, Nourished and New
Share a conversation with a group of women, and inevitably the topic will come up around weight. We compare our size to that of the latest image on a magazine. But then someone will pipe up and say something to the effect of ,”Real women have curves.”
It seems we are living in a new age where women are starting to stand up for themselves and celebrate their curves, as they shun the “Twiggy” image. We are realizing that we don’t need to be a size zero to be sexy. Guess what? Curves ARE sexy. But what about the women like myself, who really are healthy but who happen to be skinny, with a pudgy waist and virtually NO curves?
Are we “Real Women” too?
Recently, I read an article about a campaign called “Say No to Size Zero”, headed up by a former model who was kicked out of the industry because of her weight (she is a size 12). Being a former anorexic, I can understand her motivation. She is asserting that models should not have to be a size zero. She suffered discrimination about her weight and lost her job because of it and that’s awful. However, there are many women out there who are just naturally skinny. (although I”m guessing not many of us are truly a size 0) . True, they might be far and few between , but never the less, they don’t want to be discriminated against either.
I have a good friend who was my room mate all throughout college and she is one of those naturally skinny people. She has had some doctors question her eating habits because they probably thought she is anorexic. Nope- it’s just the way she’s built. It doesn’t mean she is any less of a woman.
There is a campaign that I do support and it’s called Health At Every Size. (click on the link to register and pledge your support) It does not matter how naturally skinny or how voluptuous you are. Beauty and health have nothing to do with size. How about we all try to find health and happiness no matter what we look like? Nobody is immune to the stress of life, and we can ALL work on “nourishing our body and soul”.
So what makes a real woman to me?
–Someone who is not afraid to show her emotions. And someone who admits she is afraid to express herself.
–Someone who yells at her kids. And someone who later on hugs her kids as tight as she can.
–Someone who is not afraid to eat a piece of chocolate cake. And someone who admits that she feels fat afterward.
–Someone who wears lots of make up and jewelry just because she likes it. And someone who doesn’t feel the need for it.
–Someone who knows full well that she can change a tire, be the CEO of a company, or even the President of the United States.
–And someone who feels no shame in being a stay-at home mom and who says that cleaning and playing with her kids are her “job”.
Actually, this list could go on and on and on…..
You may ask, “what about the women who struggle with being authentic, or “real?” (I can put myself in that category!) Well, they are “real” women too!
In short, we are ALL “real” women… you know why?
Because NONE of us are immune to the pressure to be someone we are not. We ALL have struggles and emotions, and insecurities, mixed with beautiful moments of joy and peace. And you know what? THAT, to me is as “real” as it gets.
What do you think of when you hear the comment, “Real Women Have Curves?” Share your comment here!
From one “real” woman to another,
Certified Holistic Health Coach